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Self Care in the Time of Revolution (& Pandemic)

Self Care in the Time of Revolution (& Pandemic)

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How are you? 

How are you really?

Because I know that I’m exhausted.

I somehow forgot how to do the things. I forgot how to work, I forgot how to disconnect from social media. I forgot how to fall asleep. Work. Sleep. Disconnect. I feel trapped in a state that I can only describe as… ?????

For the people who are new to self-care, it is a practice of ensuring that every aspect of one’s life is tended to. As a mental health advocate, I believe self-care should happen everyday. But what does that look like amidst a revolution? That’s amidst a pandemic? That’s amidst the greatest economic downturn since the Great Depression? To put it lightly, things are weird.

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We, the people, are changing the world right now. It’s going to take work but it’s also going to take time. Let’s start at the very beginning. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, before you can focus on and reach your highest potential, your most basic needs must be met. So this is bare bones, physical, emotional, and occupational self-care. If you’re feeling as discombobulated and detached after this year-long week, keep reading. 

Physical

  1. Drink something I’m not saying I’m a psychic or anything but I’ll bet money you’re dehydrated right now. Go drink a huge cup/bottle of water and then fill 5 more and place them strategically around your space. Bed, desk, couch, etc. Put it where you know you’ll need it

  2. Eat something (literally anything!) If you’re not hungry but you haven’t eaten, think about what you used to eat when you were stressed before 2020. Maybe you cut it out in an effort to be healthy but if you haven’t eaten in a couple days, it’s time to bring in the twinkies. If you can’t 

  3. Sleep it off If it’s 7pm or later, take a melatonin and go to bed. Something happens after 7pm where you sit down then all of a sudden it’s 2 am. Do me a favor, go to sleep. 

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We’ve covered the absolute minimum basics of physical self care. There are so many more, but truth is I’m tired so we’re moving on to fulfilling emotional needs! If you’re black, 1) same and 2) all of the pain and anguish that comes with that has been laid to bare and you’re being asked to, once again, catch up all the people who were VERY late to the party, while the fabric of our country and also doing your job. It’s always been a lot but for me at least, this is the literal most it’s ever been. 

Emotional

  1. Spark some joy. Creating beautiful things out of pain is black culture. I know it’s so hard to detach right now but self care is SO important to the survival of your sanity and of this movement. Rest is resistance, just ask the Nap Ministry. So give yourself permission to feel joy. Here are things that helped me there this week. 

    1. 28 Reasons to Hug a Black Guy

    2. Beyonce’s Homecoming

    3. Ni**as vs. The Police by Richard Pryor

    4. You’re about to lose your job

    5. Another Round

  2. Cry. You deserve it. You’ve been holding it in for so long. You deserve to feel the release of all that pent up emotion. These opened the floodgates. 

    1. Come up with a better way

    2. Protest but have a plan

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Occupational

  1. If working during a literal pandemic wasn’t exhausting enough, now we’re fielding questions about how we are and how our non-black colleagues can support us. And like??? I don’t know?? How would I know how to completely dismantle the systematic racism that entrenched in corporate America and create an equitable place for employees? And you want me to do that on top of my 9-5? Because I know how frustrating it is to find words to express yourself (especially now), here’s a template that you can keep in your pocket to protect your peace.

    “As you can imagine, it’s been a particularly difficult time for my community. I understand your feelings of sadness and horror, as they are omnipresent throughout the long history of police brutality. I appreciate your efforts to support Black employees but I, too, am unsure how to do so, as I can only speak to my experience. To that point, the first step is to have an open forum for employees to safely share their concerns and experiences directly with executives. There are professionals who are experts in this space who can help [Company Name] create a transparent and actionable plan to create change within the company as well as externally. This plan should include a framework that allows for safe, anonymous feedback as well as a cadence for accountability purposes”

    And there you have it! Thanks for reading and please TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!

To My Non-Black Friends

To My Non-Black Friends

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